What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You and Your Father Didn't Know

For anyone who has given up on love life, here’s a book that will make you want to fall in love all over again.  What Your Mother Couldn’t Tell You and Your Father Didn’t Know: Advanced Relationship Skills for Better Communication and Lasting Intimacy has everything you need to know about what men and women need in a relationship whether you’re married or not. We all know the common stereotypes associated with both sexes. Men are lazy. Boys will be boys. Guys don’t talk. On the other hand, Women talk too much. Girls are needy. They nag all the time. All these stereotypes are not necessarily false, and do signify why men and women sometimes just cannot get along. It all comes down to the fact that men and women are wired differently and this creates misunderstanding, according to Dr. John Gray who authored the book and others including the best-seller, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, which has been translated into many languages. Forget that he is s some kind of doctor; the bottom line: he really knows what he’s talking about. Every chapter is written in such a way that you can relate to the scenario—literally.

From the first chapter to the last, this relationship bible feels like a best friend who understands why you or your partner do what you do. Gray even goes deeper and cites biological differences between men and women (actual brain functions) that influence our behavior. He also goes back to the ancient days when men used to hunt and women used to stay home and take care of their children. It was easier then, he says, because the gender roles were clearly understood. Men were breadwinners and women were homemakers. Women appreciated their men for bringing home the kill and the men appreciated the women for taking care of the home. And, women mingled with other women at their homes by talking and bonding, so there was no need to talk to their husbands as much. Modern day women are different. They are mothers and at the same time play the masculine role of having a career. In Nepal, women still stay at home while their men make a living but it’s becoming more difficult to sustain a living with a one-income household. So, we are living in different times than our ancestors, which mean that both men and women are now required to communicate to their partners in a way that is not instinctual or natural. So, what’s the solution?

It’s really all about compromising, according to Gray. The book helps you understand that men and women are really from different planets and the key is to understand the other sex instead of criticizing. And, even if your partner does not read the book, there are many things you can do to improve the relationship. This book contains valuable information on how to go about understanding the men and women in your lives and thus, maintain a loving and harmonious existence between the two.

For  those who are fed up with their relationship and close to breaking up or having a divorce or just feel trapped: Read this book first: it just might change your destiny.

Here’s an excerpt from the book:

Chapter 4: How Men and Women are Different

Women do not instinctively understand a man’s need to silently reflect on his feelings and thoughts at the times when she would want to talk and share. Conversely, men don’t instinctively understand a women’s need to talk about problems. As a result, we experience endless frustration in our relationships with the other sex. Understanding our brain differences can help us to understand why these complaints are so commonly expressed by women about men. For example, when women are upset, they commonly tend to resolve their feelings by talking. Through talking, they are able to think about their feelings, sort through or “process” conflicting feelings, and find resolution.

Men “process” feelings differently. They silently feel their feelings and think about what is bothering them, and then begin problem solving. Simply by using his right brain to problem-solve, he temporarily disengages from his feelings and automatically cools off...

So true, ain't it?